As one might expect, we're upset after so much effort - especially on my wife's part - to have a healthy child. Though my wife is suffering greatly with tearing, she is mostly concerned that SHE might have done something wrong during labor. I can only wonder if the attending physician might be responsible. (Is this just a need to affix blame for this, I wonder?)

I knew something was going on during the birthing process by the looks and gestures between the labor room staff. Also, when both the OB & pediatrician were present the next morning, they had a heated discussion which included a recommendation to x-ray our baby girl for "legal" reasons. (?!) I wasn't present for this before-visiting-hours exchange, but I did make it to the her room just before visiting hours the following day to hear the OB Dr. talking to my wife. His demeanor had changed DRAMATICALLY from pre-birth visits, where he was mostly cocky. Before I go on too far, its just that every little thing we ignored before the delivery seems to be a mountain now - we put our faith in this recommended physician. Now, my wife has no confidence in him and we see him as trying to simply cover his tracks. Do we want money for his possible mistake? NO! We want our baby to live a full life, with or without the use of her arm. But we want to do everything we can to make the best use of this time if it will help to recover any use of it. All we are hearing now is that denial is the best course of action. Is the OB right?

He said there's nothing to do for a couple of months...just wait and see if she starts moving the arm. And he says there is no specialist that can be seen to determine whether a proactive approach SHOULD be taken. Who is right? I read virtually everything on your website (it is the first one a clicked on) and a recommendation is made to see a "specialist." What kind of specialist?

We have an appointment to see the baby's pediatrician in private in two days. I can only reassure my distraught wife that its the next step in a logical course of action but, I must confess, this is an area I simply know nothing about. I DO know that my wife's first baby doesn't deserve to be left to an uncertain future if something can and should be done.

Any suggestions will be greatly appreciated.

Damian